YOU ASKED:
I’ve been married for more than fifteen years. I have been in a side relationship that my husband recently found out about. How can I convince my husband to let me keep my side dude?
WE ANSWERED: Whew! Sis… Let me get this straight: you’ve been married (covenant before God, remember that?) for over fifteen years, and now that your “side relationship” got exposed, you’re trying to convince your husband to just let you keep him?
Let’s go to the Word, since that’s the only thing that’ll rightly divide this hot mess.
Hebrews 13:4 (NIV) says: “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
God takes covenant seriously. He’s not out here playing musical chairs with hearts and homes. That “side dude” isn’t just a side issue, he’s a demonic infection trying to take root in a place God called holy. And God’s not handing out sanitizer for unrepentant sin, He’s calling for a complete turnaround.
You’re asking the wrong question. It’s not how can I keep him? The real question is how can I repent and make things right?
This isn’t just about convincing your husband to accept chaos; it’s about convincing yourself to stop entertaining what’s killing your covenant. Because if you're trying to hold on to a side dude, you’re not just risking your marriage, you’re risking your peace, your witness, and your relationship with God.
So here’s my advice, humble yourself. Apologize. Repent. Cut off the side dish completely (block, delete, and baptize that phone if you have to). Ask God to heal what’s broken in you that made room for compromise in the first place.
Because Sis… God didn't call you to be double-minded or double-booked. He called you to be faithful, even when it’s hard, even when it’s messy.
Now go lay that relationship on the altar and don’t you dare try to resurrect what God’s calling you to bury. Amen? Amen.
NEXT WEEK: How long is too long to remain in a relationship before he asks you to marry him? Also, and I’m asking for a friend, how long is too long to be engaged?
