YOU ASKED:
In a relationship, you share meals, a bed, and deep intimacy. So why do phones suddenly become a “privacy” issue? If everything else is open, why is that one device off-limits?
WE ANSWERED:
When two people share a life: meals, a bed, bodies, and even dreams, the phone often becomes the one object that raises eyebrows. Why is that?
The truth is, privacy and secrecy are not the same thing. A healthy relationship honors both intimacy and individuality. Your phone might hold work emails, confidential conversations with friends, therapy notes, or even reminders of past pain you’re not ready to relive out loud. Protecting that space doesn’t automatically mean you’re hiding something.
But here’s the key: if a phone becomes a source of fear, suspicion, or control, then it’s not about privacy anymore, it’s about power. In abusive relationships, I’ve seen phones weaponized: partners demanding passwords, combing through texts, using information as ammunition. That’s not love, that’s surveillance.
Healthy love looks different. It’s about trust that says, “I don’t need to monitor your phone to know you’re committed to us.” It’s about respecting that your partner can have private conversations and still be completely faithful. It’s about openness that is freely given, not forcibly taken.
So, why is the phone “off-limits”? Because it’s not about exclusion, it’s about boundaries. Just like you wouldn’t read someone’s journal or insist on sitting in every work meeting they attend, you don’t need to invade their digital space to feel secure. If the relationship is built on trust, then the phone becomes just a tool, not a battlefield.
NEXT WEEK:
CALLING ALL DV SURVIVORS; ADVOCATES; AND FAMILIES OF VICTIMS WHO LOST THEIR LIVES TO DV…
You’re Invited
Join Our House, Inc and NoMoreDVorAbuse.org for Indianola’s 4th Annual DV Survivors/Advocates Night Out & Candlelight Vigil as we stand together in honor of survivors, advocates, and the lives lost to domestic violence.
Highlights of the evening:
“Say Her Name” Domestic Violence Candlelight Vigil
Musical Tribute & Powerful Testimonies
Guest Speaker: Tessa Holder, mother who lost her daughter to DV in July
FREE 2025/2026 Full-Color 11×17 Survivors Calendar for all attendees
Resource information to support survivors and families
This is more than an event—it’s a night of healing, awareness, and community strength. Together, we can say No More Domestic Violence.
